I guess I first noticed the hooker quality to a lot of “fashion” when watching Charmed. I loved it for the interesting takes on metaphysics and the tongue-in-cheek humor but I wondered why so much cleavage was needed and whether they really imagined that an art museum curator would be allowed to show up bra-less in a halter top, midriff showing above a tiny little skirt. The I started realizing that in the world of rock videos and TV and celebrities women have taken to dressing as if their sole raison d’etre is to be sexy to men. And young women take them as role models.
I arrived at college when the women’s movement had just blossomed into a major force and all the women I knew were swept up in the quest to be free and equal. More than just an effort to open career doors, be allowed credit, and to make better money, a huge part of women’s lib was about ending the era of women living their lives for and through men. We wanted to be openly smart instead of having to pretend to be dumb for men; we wanted to be independent and not to hold back so men could feel strong.
We used our “smart” to go to law school, medical school, business school and on to court rooms, operating rooms and corporate board rooms. (Do the young women not realize how recent it was that none of that was open to most women?) We got there without dressing sexy and then worked on getting sexual harassment out of the work place. We also wanted to stop exploitation of women in strip clubs and men’s magazines and porn. We obviously didn’t succeed but how did so many women wind up doing a U-turn into trying to look like strippers and hookers in order to please men?
A friend mentioned to me that she thought a lot of women feel powerful in 4” heels. What kind of power? Other than feeling you make men want to have sex with you, what kind of power? A lot of men would have sex if you looked like a guerrilla but had big boobs, a vagina and a willingness to spread your legs so I hardly think it reflects much power that you can get a guy to want sex. It really doesn’t take much.
Real power is something you carry within. Real power is being able to be who you are no matter what people—especially men—think. Real power is having a strong sense of self worth and self esteem. Are there really a lot of women out there who are deluded enough to think that their power is between their legs? Because that’s a version of power that keeps it all in the hands of men. I think it’s time for the power of the feminine to move forward, claimed by women as enough in and of itself.
- On shoe fashion and foot binding (notjustsassyontheinside.wordpress.com)
- Hookers For Jesus (elementalist1994.wordpress.com)